This precious moment…
In the words of the late, renowned author Dr. Wayne Dyer:
“There’s an irony to this habit of letting your mind drift to other times and other places. You can only drift off in the now, because now is all you ever get. So drifting off is a way of using up your present moments. You do indeed have a past, but not now! And, yes, you have a future, but not now! You can consume your ‘now’ with thoughts of “then” and “maybe,” but that will keep you from the inner peace you could experience”.
As you reflect upon these words, become aware of your breath, in the now, and your mind will not wander off into the past and gather all the emotions that rise up with the past.
We need to let go of the past. We need to understand that “Whatever happened back then was meant to happen”. Nothing else could have happened. We traumatize ourselves by questioning over and over ‘if only I had done that’ – ‘things would have been different’. But you didn’t do that….and you cannot change the past. So why did we make those decisions and why did those things happen? Simply to teach us a lesson, yes, to teach us lessons, so that we may grow and heal. We need to listen to the wisdom of our past.
We also try to live in the future. How futile is that? We simply create stories. We don’t know what is going to happen in the future. We may convince ourselves that we do but on what premise? We worry; we fear; we dramatize; we create ‘to do’ list after ‘to do’ list; we want and want; we use so much energy ‘thinking’ about the future that we miss the ‘now’. We miss this precious moment.
Some of us cannot escape the past and believe that the future is forever linked to it. And so if we don’t escape our past, we carry it with us and often don’t realize that by doing so, we carry on with the same thoughts, behaviours and habits that are no longer useful. The future doesn’t have anything to do with the past. We just think it does. We need to let go of the future too.
Truly living is ‘living’ in this moment. The moment is fleeting. We need to grasp it and cherish it.
I am often asked to connect this beautiful poem with the author….a poem I read to my students and one which I read to myself….often!
I was the type of person,
That held onto things too tight,
Unable to release my grip,
When it no longer felt right,
And although it gave me blisters,
And my fingers would all ache,
I always thought that holding on,
Was worth the pain it takes.
I used to think in losing things,
I’d lose part of me too,
That slowly I’d become someone,
My heart no longer knew.
Then one day something happened,
I dropped what I had once held dear,
But my soul became much lighter,
Instead of filled with fear.
And it taught my heart that some things,
Aren’t meant to last for long,
They arrive to teach you lessons,
And then continue on.
You don’t have to cling to people,
Who no longer make you smile,
Or do something you’ve come to hate,
If it isn’t worth your while.
That sometimes the thing you’re fighting for,
Isn’t worth the cost,
And not everything you ever lose,
Is bound to be a loss.
x Annemaree x
Thank you Erin Hanson for allowing me to use your beautiful poem. Erin Hanson Poetry
‘Let Go’ features on the meditation App ‘Insight Timer’. Let Go
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