It is cool to be kind….not cruel to be kind!
This Sanskrit word opens a mélange of ideas, beliefs, and opinions about what ‘do no harm’ actually means. ‘Ahimsa’ is so easily expressed but not so easy to adhere to at times.
And….the antithesis to ‘do no harm’ is really very, very simple –
As expressed by the great author Henry James: “Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”
Nothing is more unattractive than someone being unkind about another and nothing is more futile than one being unkind about oneself.
Recently I held a ‘Soul Soothing Sunday’ whereupon students came to a gentle Hatha yoga class and we sat around discussing ‘Ahimsa’. Off to dinner afterwards, and the conversation was still continuing – and today is still continuing – weeks later in fact!
Many have come forward with responses to what ‘Do no harm’ means to them. Here are some of the precepts in leading a life of ‘Ahimsa’, some of which you may never have considered before this.
- Think before you speak
- Keep your word
- Know that betrayal in any form can be devastating to the one who has trusted you
- Do not believe you have the right to change the direction of another’s life
- Proffer compassion not retaliation.
- Use your rational intellect in seeking truth rather than jumping to conclusions and being ruled by the ‘emotional mind’. In other words, seek facts not here say – assumptions don’t cut it.
- No judgment
- No gossip
- Charm is one thing, honesty is another. Nothing can be more harmful than those who are passively aggressive. (Those who are sweet-faced but are really silent assassins).
- Avoid aggressive people whenever possible, ‘for they are vexations to the spirit’ (as quoted in The Desiderata).
- Understand that everything one says will have a ripple effect.
- Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself.
- Understand that everything one does affects this world.
- Stand alone if necessary and be strong rather than join the crowd and be carried away by the majority.
- Understand the human condition.
- Offer a hand and not an opinion unless requested.
- Offer a smile and not a scald.
- Let go of social conditioning.
- Live in beauty.
- Be mindful in all that you do.
- Let people in the queue.
- Follow your heart.
- Stay out of harm’s way. If you are in the presence of someone causing you harm, remove yourself from his/her path.
- Diffuse rather than ignite.
- Lead the way – don’t acquiesce.
- If you are in the company of those whom you know feel harm in your presence (e.g. jealousy) stay away for their sake and for you own!
- Know what kindness looks and feels like.
- Do not separate yourself by beliefs, values, nationality, religion, disposition, tradition and status – we are all doing our best. We are all in this together.
- Be sensitive to the fact, that it is very easy to harm.
I have learned from my teachers that ‘Ahimsa’ is the golden rule of yoga and if one can fully achieve the practice of ‘Do no harm’, one need learn no other form of yoga, for all the other practices are included in it.
And so, there are many, many paths to peace.
Hold hands with humanity and one can then be free from judgments, criticism, assumption, hatred and enmity.
Understanding is the key.
Kindness is the way…
Idealistic? Well, why not!